The first foray into bondage can be an exhilarating and exciting experience. If it’s your first time taking a walk on the wild side, here are some tips to know before you get started.
But first, here are a some of the main benefits of engaging in a little tie-me-down action:
- Self-Discovery – There is something extremely satisfying by taking your sex life into your own hands and discovering new pleasure zones you didn’t know you had. If you never try you’ll never know!
- Healthy expression – Studies have shown that people who regularly engage in bondage tend to be more extroverted, honest about their feelings, and have lower anxiety levels.
- Keeping it interesting – Feeling stuck in a rut or bored with the same sexual routine? Bondage is a great way to fire up those passions and get the gears going again. Discover new ways to pleasure your partner and experiment with completely new feelings and sensations are you explore the wonderful world of adult play.
1. Loosen Up
Set the scene from the start. Find out what gets you and your partner comfortable and do it. Naughty videos to get you in the mood? A bottle of wine and some treats? Whatever it is, feel free to go a little crazy and indulge in all your favorite foreplay fantasies. We won’t tell.
2. Toys and Tricks
Visit to your local adult toy shop to shop if you’re feeling frisky and adventurous. A quick hint: The salespeople are usually very knowledgeable and happy to help if you need some help picking out the right piece. Start with a few beginner basics, plenty of lube, and off you go! Be sure to stock up plenty of lube as well – I personally love a flavored lube but different types work best with different toys so ask your saleslady if you’re not sure.
It’s so long since I’ve had sex, I’ve forgotten who ties up whom.
3. Stay Safe
Establish a safe word before you get started, this should be a simple word that is easy to remember. It might help to discuss when to use the safeword and agree upon a course of action if the safe word is said. If you are with a partner for a first time or feel it’s necessary, have some protection on hand. I find that having a variety of condoms works well and could even be extremely enjoyable. Not comfortable with this? Try having her put it on.
And now you’re ready for your first bondage experience. Don’t be discouraged if takes some time to warm up and let your dirty dominatrix out – handcuffs aren’t meant to be comfortable, but they sure are fun!