Just when you thought you had the female orgasm all figured out, you discover that there is more than one way to give her pleasure. Maybe it’s because women have to bear the burden of childbirth that they are given more than one way to have an orgasm, with more than one point of pleasure to enjoy it. Most people are familiar with a clitoral orgasm, and the mystery of the elusive G-spot has remained that…a mystery. Now, finally, there is some better information on G-spot stimulation.
Since the original research in 1940 and the bestselling book The G-spot there have been various definitions of what it is, where it is located, and if, in fact every woman has a G-spot. Newer research is a little bit clearer. While everyone does have this sexual hot spot, the amount of pleasure that a woman gets from stimulating this area of her body varies. This explains why some women love their G-spot, and others prefer an orgasm of the clitoris.
Finding The Elusive G-spot
The path of discovery to find the G-spot is not difficult once you know what you are looking for. There is a spongy tissue that is wrapped around the urethra which swells when a woman is aroused. To find it, slide a finger inside your vagina, palm facing up as if you’re reaching for your abdomen. About two to three inches up you should feel a slightly ridged tissue that feels like a softer version of the roof of your mouth.
This area can be stroked and you can test how sensitive your body is to G-spot stimulation. For some women, the feeling is pleasurable; for others that have a higher number of nerve endings, the feeling may be too intense and not feel comfortable at all. The reassuring news is that if G-spot stimulation does little for you, it doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong. Your body is just not wired for a G-spot orgasm.
The more aroused you are, the more this area will swell. You can experiment to see what feels best to you. For example, if your partner places a firm, open hand on your lower abdomen while reaching for the G-spot with the other hand, you could experience a better sensation. If you are going solo, there are specially designed vibrators made with a hook on one end that can reach your hot spot. Go for a rocking motion rather than an up and down thrusting.
A G-spot orgasm is a great goal, but don’t make it an obsession. Enjoy the ride and enjoy exploring your body to find out what brings you pleasure. We are all unique and only you can know when something feels good. Whether it’s the G-spot or the clitoris, you are equipped with the tools to have joy in your sex life.