Okay, let’s assume that the ground rules have been set – you simply want to have a fuck friend that you can hook up with once in a while without all that scary talk of commitment or the responsibility of reporting back to each other for permission to date other people or go out with your friends. All very simple and above-board.
But just because the rules have been set, don’t get bored and forget to flirt. Even if you are just friends and screwing like rabbits is part of the benefits, there’s no reason that you can’t be playful and practice your flirting.
If you are the girl, what kind of flirting is going to turn your guy on? Guys are pretty simple and they are usually pretty good about telling us what they are after if we allow them to be comfortable with us.
Try a cheeky smile and a hello. Keep your conversations casual and playful. What you may discover is that by allowing yourself to have a casual conversation with your friend, you will be better at having similar conversations with guys that you may like to have a different kind of relationship with. Think of it as being able to enter the “guy” world without all of the concerns you would have if you were looking for a partner.
Ask them about what they are up to. Guys love to talk about themselves or what they are working on. Don’t offer advice unless they ask for it, just be a friend and encourage them in whatever they are trying to do. Remember, in your fuck friend relationship he isn’t looking for someone to nag or lecture. You’re both there for a little fun so keep the talk positive.
Don’t underestimate the power of touch. Don’t maul him. Just a light touch will make a connection to start your hookup. You can still be naughty and show a little class.
When it’s time to go, go with a smile. Never get clingy – that’s not what you’re relationship is about. Probably the best flirtatious move you have is to be confident in yourself. Confidence will beam like a lighthouse and guide in weary ships from stormy seas.