Casual sex shouldn’t mean sloppy sex. To get the most out of a casual dating relationship you still need to bring your “A” game to the playing field.
One of the benefits of no strings attached sex is that all the mind games are removed and the stress over misaligned expectations vanishes. You get the pleasure of simply focusing on the pleasure of enjoying each other’s bodies.
Now don’t freak out over the word, but if you want to make casual sex better then you need to realize that physical and emotional intimacy is still important…even if just for the one hour that you roll around in the sack, or on the kitchen table, or in the hallway. You get the picture.
I’m not talking about intimacy in a way that you are gazing deeply into her eyes, or talking about your feelings. I’m talking about making the effort to intimately know your partners body, their likes and dislikes when it comes to sex.
Don’t assume that you need to perform like a porn star to enjoy casual sex. While a little porn may play its part in providing inspiration or introducing a new position, understand that jack hammer up and down movements are usually for the benefit of the camera and the viewer, not so much for the participants. Try a lateral rocking back and forth once in a while and watch the reaction.
Even though it’s casual sex, stay aware of what’s happening on the playing field. If she’s wincing or looks as if she is mentally preparing a shopping list, then neither of you are getting the full benefit of the no strings attached scenario. You may not care at the moment when you are doing your best porn star impression, but trust me, if you make the effort to know what feels good to her then anything that follows is going to be much better for you.
Women are very good at showing appreciation when you make that intimate connection in the sack. Imagine great sex with an “A” game partner and the freedom to continue living your life without the stress of a relationship. That’s what great casual sex is about.