At some point when you were growing up, did you try to do something “sexy” and get shot down and shamed? Maybe you were in your early teens, or pre-teens, and you got this kind of sexual feeling and tried to wear something a little revealing out in public. Did your parents gasp in shock and horror, telling you that you couldn’t wear that because of what people might think of you? Were your commanded to go put on a sweater to cover up your budding breasts? Were you lectured about how it was impolite to flirt with a boy because they may get the wrong idea about you and think that you were easy?
If any of this sounds familiar, then you have been shamed into being a good girl. At some point in your life you most likely had a sexual desire, or a thought, to be a little bad, dress a little sexy, and flirt mercilessly with someone that caught your fancy. But, you held yourself back. You remembered that you were told that you didn’t want to be known as one of “those” women.
But…is that really true?
Didn’t a little part of you really want to be one of those women? After all, they seemed to be having all of the fun while you were stuck overseeing the punch bowl. And, try to remember what exactly it was about these women that you were attracted to.
I suspect that if you were really to think about it, you would admit that you were attracted to the fact that these women had sexual power. And as you become a woman, you have an idea that there is a lot of power behind sexual power.
I have a secret for you. Being a good girl cheats you out of your sexual power. While you are trying to be proper and ladylike, those around you are walking all over you. In your career, in your relationships, and in your sex life. You are basically asking and waiting for others to grant you permission to get what it is that you really want out of life.
For example, as women, we tend to have to live within a stereotype in the business world that if we demand what we want, we are seen as a cold hearted bitch. Then, if we dress in a feminine manner and conform to society’s rules for “ladies” we are not taken seriously and get what we want only through the permission of others.
Does that sound like you are being cheated? Does this make you mad? Does this make you want to learn how to embrace your sexual power?
Why not unleash the bad girl within you and unleash your sexual power. You can take the same energy from sexual power, sexual feelings, and sexual passion and use it in your business life. You can use your sexuality and get what you want.
A good place to start to explore your true sexuality is in your dating life. Many start with an adult online dating site so they can brazenly flirt, ask questions, and explore options with potential mates. This is a non-threatening area to develop your sexuality muscle. You will discover that the more you are able to ask for what you really want online, you will find it much easier to get what you want offline.
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