Okay, before you even think it, I’m not some sleazy guy. I’m a girl. An attractive, successful, funny and sexy woman actually. I love adventure, love to have fun, love men, and love dating. I’m just not at a point yet where I want to settle on just one scent of man. I have a very active olfactory system.
Sounds perfect, right?
Well, some guys think so. But having all this confidence and aggressiveness can be a challenge if you are a woman. Believe it or not, men still want to be seen as heroes and for the most part want to feel as if they are in control.
So, I let them. Let them believe that anyway…even if it’s not completely true!
Let’s face it ladies – sometimes these guys are just way too slow at working up to things. Not the sex things. They have no problem in that area which is just the way I like it. After all, what good is London sex without the sex?
But they seem to have trouble working up to the asking. Asking for the date, asking for what they really what when it comes to sex, and definitely in asking us what we want!
The trick is to give them all the clues, give them the tools they need to get the job done, openly give them the green light, and then let them take you for a ride on their white horse.
Easier said than done, I know. So here are a few tips to be an aggressive London sex dater:
Don’t be afraid to make the first move. This is often where the guys get hung up on all that fear of rejection. Make the first call, go up and introduce yourself, but then hang back and let them carry the conversation or ask for the first date. Don’t ask him out for the first date but make it very clear that you are interested. Give him the pleasure of doing the asking in a non-threatening situation.
Offer to pay for the date. This doesn’t mean that you will actually pull out your wallet and don’t push the issue. Just offering allows him to see that you recognize how expensive dating can be. Another option is to offer to leave the tip at dinner.
If the first date was great, or even good, say that you would love to go out again. If you don’t hear from him in a couple of days, don’t hesitate to contact him. People do get busy so don’t assume that he’s not interested. Don’t get all hung up on insecurity – that’s not attractive! But, if he doesn’t respond then just move on. Don’t start stalking him or calling and texting uncontrollably.
Confidence is sexy; Crazy isn’t!
Remember to balance your confidence and assertiveness with a little coyness and reserve. You can be aggressive without making all the moves. Allow him to come in with his own moves and be open to them. Ask for what you want and your London sex prospects will multiply.
In eras past, the term ‘dating’ was not used. Instead, the process of taking a person of the opposite sex out for a social event was referred to as ‘courtship’. And when a woman was being courted, the intention of the male suitor was very clear…he was looking for a woman to cook, clean, and bear his children.
One of the benefits of technology is that it has made the world much smaller. And for those in the dating world, or just looking for a hookup, this technology has allowed them to meet potential partners that live beyond the border of their neighborhood, city, state and even country. Think about the possibilities. Imagine that you are sitting at your kitchen table in London and having a little sex talk with a guy in New York. Now that’s the way to enjoy a good bagel!
Every date begins with a ‘hello’. However, what goes on after that point depends on what the people involved are looking for. While some are in the dating arena with the intention of finding a serious, committed relationship, others are simply looking for an opportunity to meet new people and enjoy going places with someone – no strings attached. If you are in the latter group and are most interested in casual dating, a short-term hookup or even a one night stand, be sure to follow these Etiquette guidelines. Even a brief encounter calls for some level of manners.
Don’t lie about your intentions. Unless you find your playmate on an adult dating site such as Randy Rabbits, where users are encouraged to be open about their sexual intentions, you may need to carefully sort through women in person. It’s a little tough to meet someone at a coffee shop for the first time and say, “Hey, I just want to get laid”. You are most likely to get a scalding cup of java thrown in your face. However, if that is really what you want, and you don’t want any emotional entanglements, then you need to be honest about that. This will ensure that that other person understands the ground rules and the likelihood of someone getting burned is reduced.